Thursday, December 20, 2007
15 Days Later...
Caleb has gone back and forth from being a complete and total grump to being our normal fun-loving kid. I like the fun-loving days a lot better, but who wouldn't? We've been blaming it all on teething (the usual scapegoat) because nothing else makes sense. He hasn't had fever and hasn't shown any signs of ear infection or any other horrible sickness. He's just mad at the world. He isn't sleeping well either. He's been waking up every night somewhere between midnight and 2 AM and cries like he's been stung by bees until we give him some milk. He usually sucks that down by the time his diaper is changed. We've tried putting him back in his bed and walking out, but that starts the wailing all over again. At first, we were determined to wait him out and just let him cry, but that's impossible. He will literally cry all night long - which means no sleep for anyone and some very miserable days. So - we give in (I know...I know) and get him. We've been taking turns sleeping in the guest bed with Caleb for over a week now. It's getting old. I'm hoping that the transition into the new house is a natural time for us to cut that out. However, we have some crazy days ahead of us with the schedule that we have for Christmas break. Tonight, we resorted to Benadryl to (hopefully) help him sleep through the night. We'll see.
We close on our house tomorrow at 3:00. Everything has come together beautifully. Last night, we went by there with our Realtor to make a punch list and I literally got tears in my eyes when I pulled in the driveway. The house is just so pretty and so much more than I ever dreamed I'd be able to have at the age of 31. I can't wait to live there. The movers come Saturday morning!
Wednesday, December 5, 2007
Santa
Tonight, I decided to brave it again and give it another shot. I took Caleb back to the mall. Santa was on his dinner break, so we walked around for about 20 minutes while we waited on him to get back. We waited and waited for the people in front of us to finish. When they did, I took Caleb over to see Santa. I had thought ahead and brought his squeaky Santa toy for Caleb to hold. Well...here's what we got:
Yes...Santa is flipping off the camera while holding my child in his lap. I can't decide if it's the saddest thing I've ever seen or if it is downright hilarious. I could crop it to just be from Caleb's shoulders up so that he isn't traumatized in the future...or I could just leave it alone and laugh about it for years to come!
Ho Ho Ho!
Wednesday, November 28, 2007
I can't even believe it.
When we left for Thanksgiving, our new house was up, but didn't have any brick or flooring. When we got back on Sunday, it was mostly bricked and the tile had been put down! Woo hoo! I had a few extra minutes this morning, so I drove by to see what had been done. There were about 5 or 6 workers in the garage. I don't know what they were doing, but at least they were doing something!
Thanksgiving was a wonderful break! After our offer was accepted on the house, I went over to pick out granite for the countertops, carpet, paint, lighting, doorknobs and make a couple of other decisions with the builder. After that, we went to the house to take some pictures. We decided to go see the Christmas lights in Fayetteville and have dinner too. That was a lot of fun! Caleb loved the lights and all of the people.
On Monday, we went to see the Morrises in Spiro. We stopped by Jan's office to say hi and drop off some things that she left at our house. After lunch and a visit with the Morrises, we headed for Hot Springs. Mom and Mr. L. were so excited to see Caleb (and us, I guess). We had dinner and then Caleb had his first oreo. He made such a mess that he had to have a bath!
On Tuesday, Caleb spent the day with his Pops. Pops took him to Mountain Pine to show him off and he was the big man on campus for the day while Mr. L. went to a meeting. They came back home that afternoon for an attempt at a nap. Rudy and I went to Shreveport for a much-needed mini-vacation and came back on Wednesday.
Wednesday was a low-key day for us. Rudy and came back from Shreveport and Mr. L. grilled burgers for us. I took Caleb to get a haircut. Other than that last part, it was a relaxing day!
Thanksgiving Thursday was great! Mom really outdid herself on a Thanksgiving feast big enough for a family of 10, instead of just the 5 of us. After our wonderful meal, the boys headed for deer camp until Saturday. Mom, Caleb and I were lazy the rest of the day. I guess all that laziness made Caleb not want to go to bed that night, because we couldn't get him to sleep for anything! We all ended up sleeping in Mom's bed together - all 3 of us!
On Friday, I took Caleb to visit Memmie and Poppie for the morning and a yummy lunch. After lunch, we headed back to Hot Springs, so that Caleb could get a nap in the car. When we got back the Razorbacks were playing LSU, so I planted myself in front of the TV to watch what I was afraid was going to be an LSU blowout. The Hogs surprised me (and football fans everywhere) by beating number one LSU in Baton Rouge! It took 3 overtimes, but they managed to pull off an upset for the ages! It was so much fun to watch! After the game, we went over to visit with Pepapa and Anna Joyce and ended up staying for dinner.
The big boys came back on Saturday. Mr. L. grilled steaks that were to die for! Even Caleb ate some tiny bites. Aunt Harolyn had dinner with us and we all laughed at Caleb's antics. He was really putting on a show at dinner. He never ceases to crack me up when he's in that mood.
We came home on Sunday and got ready for another week of work. Rudy made chili and we vegged out all evening. Caleb had a terrible night of not sleeping. He woke up at 2:00 and I finally got him back to sleep at 4:00 by laying in the recliner with him on my chest. We slept until 6:00, when I had to get ready for work. Monday night wasn't much better, but Rudy took the night shift and slept in the guest bed with the Bug. I was so thankful that he slept through the night last night.
So...it seems like we're on the upswing. Yeah!!!! We also got a good report on Kim's bloodwork, so everyone is thankful for that.
Wednesday, November 21, 2007
Thankful
Rudy and Caleb - Seriously...what did I do to deserve them? Even through the frustrations of everyday life like pneumonia, sleepless nights, checkbooks and piles of laundry - I love those two boys with every ounce of my being. God truly blessed me when he gave them to me.
Mom and Mr. L. - My foundation could not be any more solid. I know that I am loved unconditionally and I know that they would go to the ends of the earth for me - without me having to ask.
My grandparents - Wow! When I think about how blessed I am to be 31 years old and have 4 living grandparents, I am amazed. The simple blessing of knowing that they have walked before me is enough to give me the strength to face anything.
I am thankful to have extended family to lean on and be leaned on by, friends to share the craziness of life with, a safe place to lay my head at night, a new home on the way, 2 working and comfortable vehicles, a job that gives me the means to do those little extra things that make life a little bit sweeter than it needs to be, food to fill my senses and most of all the love of God that I see in every detail when I slow down long enough to notice.
Thankfulness is a little overwhelming and heartwarming at the same time. Happy Thanksgiving to all...
p.s. Thanks to all who have offered up prayers for my Aunt Kim and Uncle Jimmy. Without telling all of their business online, I can tell you that Kim got wonderful news at a doctor's appointment this week and our whole family is grateful for everyone's prayers. The tough stuff isn't quite over, but there's light at the end of the tunnel. Please continue to pray for them as enter the next phase. We are certainly thankful to God for getting them to this point.
Monday, November 19, 2007
Sold!
Just wanted to say that we got our house! We'll be moving over Christmas break! We are ecstatic!!!
Saturday, November 17, 2007
A New House...Maybe
Wednesday, I got my hair cut/colored. The best thing about getting my hair done is that I get the fun of coming home looking like this:
Yep - that's me...with straight hair. Ha! It cracks me up everytime I look at it.
I worked late on Thursday in anticipation of BEING OFF ALL NEXT WEEK! Yeah!!!! Now, that's something to be thankful for. I need a break from work in a bad way and it just so happens that I'm off all week.
Rudy, Caleb and I met with our Realtor this morning to look at houses. Whaddyaknow...we found one that we love. You can see the info here. This is what it looks like right now:
Obviously, we won't be moving in in the next week or anything, but maybe someday! We made an offer, but we haven't heard anything. It has 3 bedrooms, an office, a 3-car garage (or 2 cars and a 4-wheeler if you ask Rudy), a big laundry room, a huge living room and a covered back porch. Did I mention that I love it?!?
On a more serious note - I have a BIG prayer request. My aunt, Kim, recently found out that she has breast cancer. The lump was removed last week. She's going to meet with a surgeon for tests, etc this week to figure out a course of action. Kim is an awesome person and probably the healthiest person I know. This whole thing makes no sense, but she has complete faith that God has reasons for everything and will pull her and Jimmy through this stronger than ever. Her sister is currently being treated for the same thing, which is what lead her to get a mammogram in the first place - since she's only in her thirties. So...if you would - please say a prayer for Kim (and Jimmy).
Happy Thanksgiving...
Monday, November 12, 2007
Maybe Someday...
I have a head cold/sinus pressure that is about to make me crazy. Rudy still has the remnants of bronchitis. And then there's Caleb:
Saturday night, Caleb went to bed at 8:30. Stacy and I were cropping and started to hear him crying around 10:30. I went back to his room and picked him to try to soothe him back to sleep. He was having none of that! He cried and patted the back of his head, so I gave him some Ibuprofen and put him back down. He slept for a little over 2 hours and then woke up screaming. I went in and gave him some milk and tried to lay down in the guest bed with him. He wiggled, squirmed, cried and yelled all night long. Rudy and I ended up taking turns sitting up, just trying to soothe him because he was obviously so uncomfortable. We couldn't figure out what was wrong, though. He eventually went to sleep laying on me in the recliner at about 6:30. We spent the whole day on Sunday switching off holding Caleb and napping. Somehow, Rudy also cleaned the bathrooms and washed his car, but I have no idea how! It was one of the most miserable experiences I can remember! We were all so tired and cranky and we just couldn't figure out what was wrong with Caleb. I called the Dr's exchange at about 6:00, because he hadn't eaten anything all day. He had just laid on the floor or in our laps. He wasn't interested in toys or food or anything! The nurse called and said that we should just watch him and make sure his fever didn't spike, but other than that - she had no words of wisdom. I just knew that after laying around all day, we would never get Caleb to sleep, but he went down to bed just like always and slept all night long. He woke up this morning a little cranky, but nothing out of the ordinary. We went to school and he seemed fine. I got a call from his school at about 1:45 that he had a fever and that his right ear was draining really badly. I told them I would be there as soon as I could. I finished my last kiddo for the day and then went to get him. We went straight to the doctor's appointment that was supposed to be for pnuemonia follow-up. When we got in to see Dr. Harmon, he said, "We're going to have to get this kid to stop getting sick on the weekends!" Rudy and I agreed whole-heartedly! Dr. Harmon took one look in Caleb's right ear and said that his eardrum had ruptured and that the left one looked like it might do the same. He put Caleb on another round of strong antibiotics and said that if that doesn't work, we'll probably do a 2nd set of tubes. The poor kid has been through the ringer and back again. He was in a pretty good mood tonight and enjoyed playing with his Daddy while I got some necessary work done. Hopefully the drugs will do their job and we'll be better, but I'm not making any promises!
Saturday, November 10, 2007
All is Well
Caleb and Rudy are feeling much better these days. After all of the medicines they've had, they should be! I have a little bit of a cold, but nothing worth worrying about for sure. Everyone has been so sweet to check on "my boys" this week. I've been doing what I can to get them well and I feel like I've been pretty successful. Caleb goes for a follow-up appointment on Monday afternoon, so we'll (hopefully) get the final word on pneumonia.
Last night, he gave us yet another scare, but this was just his boyish nature showing up. I had dinner with my co-workers and Rudy was watching him here at the house. They were winding down their night, just sitting on the couch watching TV. Rudy got up to get a drink from the kitchen and came back to find Caleb sitting on the floor, crying. He called me to tell me that Caleb wouldn't walk or even stand. He wouldn't put any weight on his left foot. I came home and we decided to give him overnight to see if it got better. It obviously wasn't broken - it wasn't even swollen. He woke up this morning, still not putting weight on it, but as the day has gone by, he's started walking with a slight limp. It's pretty pitiful, but at least we managed to stay out of the ER. We still don't know exactly what happened, but I'm not worried about it.
We're in line for a busy week. I'll try to post an update after the appointment on Monday, but I'm not promising anything...
Monday, November 5, 2007
Halloween and Pneumonia
Sunday, October 28, 2007
Jenny, the Pumpkin Patch and More Doctors
On Friday, the 19th, we were excited to have our friend, Jenny, from St. Louis, come to visit! She got here around 5:30 and we all went to dinner at Carrabba's. Yum! After dinner, we came home and played with Caleb, then sat up talking for a while. On Saturday morning, Rudy went to play golf with a neighbor and Jenny, Caleb and I went to a couple of the big craft fairs that are very popular around here. We weren't very impressed with the first one, but the second one was wonderful! I bought a mini Christmas tree decorated in Razorback stuff for our little temporary home since I don't plan on pulling out all of the Christmas stuff here this year.
Jenny and I went out for some "girl time" on Saturday night. We went to eat in Fayetteville and then hung out at a couple of places on Dickson Street before coming home to our PJ's. We were sad to see Jenny leave on Sunday.
Sunday afternoon (10/21), we met up with the Lyons family and drove to Southwest City, Missouri. We went to visit the Right Choices Corn Maze and Pumpkin Patch. It was wonderful! We even went on a hay ride pulled by a real tractor! The boys (Caleb and Jackson) had a blast playing in the hay tunnel, pumpkin patch and corn box. Caleb adores Jackson and will do whatever he says. (We need Jackson around more often.) Baby Grace didn't quite know what was going on, but she was a trooper the whole time! Even though the Lyonses had to leave early, we stayed and enjoyed ourselves until almost dark. We even had a picnic dinner. Caleb got to pet a pig, slide on a feed sack, jump on a hay bale and go in a big, red barn.
On Monday (10/22), Caleb woke up with goopy eyes and a runny nose. By the end of the day, he had a rash on both hands and the worst diaper rash I've ever seen! He was also running a fever. Again...Rudy and I took him to urgent care. The doctor said that he really thought it was just allergies causing all of it, but he wasn't sure. He wrote a prescription for a decongestant and told us that if it didn't get better, he would recommend allergy testing and possibly immune system testing. I guess my maternal instincts kicked in at that point, because I just didn't feel right about it. The next day, I called a pediatric clinic for an appointment. I wanted to see a REAL pediatrician...someone who really knows babies and kids and what to look for when they are sick. I got an appointment for Wednesday morning and took a half day off of work. In the meantime, Caleb continued to be sick. He had a fever Tuesday afternoon and didn't sleep on Tuesday night. I had to lay in the guest bed with him to keep him from crying all night. We managed a couple of hours of intermittent sleep. On Wednesday (10/24) morning, I took him to see Dr. Harmon at 8:15. We were at the clinic ALL morning. We left there at 10:45! Caleb weighed 29 pounds (90th %ile) and was 32 inches long (50th %ile).
The good thing about the morning appointment was that the doctor wasn't rushed and had time to answer all of my questions. I filled him in on Caleb's medical history and we talked about all of his symptoms. He looked him over very thoroughly and then suggested that he thought it was all probably just allergies, but that he wanted to do a little blood work to make sure it wasn't something bigger than that. So we waited and waited and waited. Finally, the doctor came back in and said that the lab was backed up and he would call me with the blood test results. He gave me samples for allergy medicine, a prescription for eye drops if needed and said not to use baby wipes until the diaper rash healed. I took Caleb to school, gave him the allergy medicine and went to work. Later that afternoon, Dr. Harmon called our house and left a message on our answering machine. He said that Caleb's blood work showed "9 monos", which was borderline for a diagnosis of mononucleosis. He instructed me to keep an eye on him for a spiking fever and said to call if I had questions. What?!?! Of course I had questions, but the clinic was closed by the time I got the message and I couldn't call. So - after Caleb went to bed, I got online and did some digging to find out about mono in toddlers/babies. It seems like all of Caleb's troubles for the past month or so may be attributed to mono: swollen tonsils, intermittent afternoon fevers, lethargy, cold symptoms, rashes, etc. I was blown away. It was like a weight had been lifted from me. I felt all along that there was more to it than just allergies and I had some vindication in knowing that my feelings were justified. That didn't make my baby feel any better, but at least I knew there was something to my maternal instincts that I should trust. There's really nothing you can do to treat mono. You just have to treat the symptoms, so we've been giving him allergy medicine to dry up his eyes and nose. I did call the doctor's office on Thursday morning, but STILL haven't heard back from them. For some reason that doesn't worry me. Just knowing what's going on with my child makes me feel better and I don't really need much more information.
Wednesday (10/24) was my 31st birthday. After spending the morning in the pediatrician's office, I spent my afternoon at work. We went out to dinner after work, drove through some neighborhoods that we like and then I spent the evening doing laundry and cleaning up the house. I know it doesn't sound very exciting for a birthday, but it was nice to be home with my husband and my child and have the sounds of life surrounding me.
Rudy and Caleb have been gone all weekend. Rudy went to a bachelor party at the deer camp in Fordyce. On his way down there, he dropped Caleb off with Jan in Ft. Smith. This was my annual weekend with "my girls" for homecoming. Cindy and Les got here Friday night and we went to dinner at La Huerta. We laughed until our faces hurt and then came home, put on our PJ's and laughed some more. Yesterday, we went to the Razorback game, did some shopping and had dinner at Tim's Pizza. Cindy had to head back to Tulsa last night, so Les and I did some crafty stuff (scrapbooking, frame-making...) until midnight and then fell into bed. She got up and left this morning and I've been procrastinating going to the grocery store. Rudy and Caleb will be home around 4:30 or 5:00.
Caleb has an ENT appointment tomorrow to check on his ear tubes. After that, he has his Halloween carnival at school. Wednesday is actually Halloween and we have plans to Trick-or-Treat with the Schmidts. Should be a fun week!
Monday, October 15, 2007
Real Estate
It's hard to believe that we are all healthy and the house sold at the same time. I really think God was pushing me to show me what I could take before he gave me a rest. This is amazing! The house has been on the market for 6 months - almost exactly - and we got a call tonight from our agent with an offer. We counteroffered and the buyers accepted. We're not getting as much as we hoped for (isn't that always the case?), but we are at least getting something! I was starting to wonder if we were going to have to pay someone to buy it.
We are truly grateful for this blessing!
Sunday, October 14, 2007
From Bad to Worse and Now We're Better
Rudy had a busy week, with responsibilities on Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday nights. Since Caleb was finishing up his ear drops, I took a look in his ears on Tuesday night just to see if they were looking better. They were better, but still not healed. I told myself to just keep an eye on it and see how he did. I was trying not to panic. On Wednesday, I worked, went to the gym and came home to a child with laryngitis. There's just something pitiful about a one-year-old with such a squeaky voice! I took one look at him and knew immediately that something wasn't right. Rudy was on his way out to a brass ensemble rehearsal and I put Caleb in the car to go to urgent care...again.
We got to urgent care at 6:15. At 7:15, we finally got called back to see the doctor. At 7:30, the doctor finally came in to see us. So much for urgent. I gave the doctor a rundown on the past couple of weeks' adventures and medications. He took a look at Caleb's ears and said they were both infected and one of his tubes is on its way out. When he looked in his throat, he gasped and his eyes got big. I've never seen a doctor do that! He asked me if Caleb's tonsils are usually that big. I told him that I've never really looked at Caleb's tonsils, but that he's never had laryngitis before. He poked and prodded at Caleb's throat for a while, then put some things in his computer and his PDA. He finally told me that he was very concerned about Caleb and that if he were more lethargic, he would have sent us straight to the hospital to be admitted. I almost passed out - literally, I had to sit down. He said that he was going to put him on a strong antibiotic in addition to a steroid and that he needed to have a dose before going to bed that night. I was instructed to watch his breathing very closely for signs of respiratory distress and to take him to the ER immediately if he showed any signs of difficulty breathing. I was terrified. We left there at 8:00 and went straight to the pharmacy to get the prescriptions. On the way, I called my mom to see if there was any possible way she could come up and help us with Caleb so that Rudy and I wouldn't have to miss more days of work already. She offered to leave immediately, but that would've gotten her here in the middle of the night. We agreed that she would come up on Thursday morning and Rudy would stay home until she got here. She ended up getting to our house at 9:00 Thursday morning and stayed until this morning. She definitely earned her grandmother crown this weekend!
Rudy and I grudgingly went to work on Thursday and Friday. Mom and Caleb stayed around the house and played until they were both exhausted! They also did ALL of our laundry and straightened up our house. Mom (somehow) managed to also get some work done while Caleb napped. I was amazed! We went to dinner Friday night and walked around the Promenade to enjoy the Fall coolness. Rudy and I went to the Razorback game yesterday. (I don't even want to talk about that.) While we were gone, Mom made chili, chicken spaghetti, banana pudding and chocolate chip cookies. Good grief! We are set for the week for sure! She also took Caleb to Chick-Fil-A and to Wal-Mart to buy some toy trucks. They played and watched the ballgame on TV and were sound asleep when we got home.
This morning, Caleb woke up with color in his cheeks, a smile on his face and a brightness in his eyes that we haven't seen in quite a while. It has been a wonderful day at our house. We've played and napped and enjoyed LaLa's cooking!
Now, we're getting ready to take on another week and we're hoping for a whole week without having to go to any doctors' offices.
On a more normal note...our 17-month-old little boy is ALL BOY. He has developed a love for hitting things, people and Dewey and for throwing his toys and cups. He gets in trouble for it and cries and cries like he's been condemned forever, but then he gets up and does it again. I'm hoping this is a phase and trying to tell myself that it's partially because he doesn't have the ability to communicate well just yet. If it continues, we'll have to take another approach!
As frustrated as we are with the aggressive behavior, we're also delighted with some of the other changes that we're seeing. Caleb is using more and more words and is now "singing" along with us when we sing to him. He has hand motions for Itsy Bitsy Spider and bobs his head to the Alphabet Song. He says "ro ro" when we sing Row Row Row Your Boat. He follows some one-step directions and loves to be tickled and read to. He's also climbing and can get into his stroller and rocking chair all by himself. Most of all, he loves to watch the videos of himself that I have on my computer, play with his his Daddy and snuggle with me.
Tuesday, October 2, 2007
Halloween Preview and Laughter
First, some laughter ~
Next, a preview of Halloween 2007. I'm on the lookout for orange PJ's to complete the look:
Monday, October 1, 2007
Weekend (and) Update
Friday afternoon, Caleb got a terrible haircut at Great Clips, so I took him back on Saturday morning and asked for a do-over. The lady that I like was there and she did a great job. However...it's really short! As fast as his hair grows, though - I'm not worried about it!
Saturday morning, we were outside playing and Caleb took his first big tumble...right into a brick wall. In addition to his big mosquito bite on his cheek, he looks like this:
Jerry and Sherry volunteered (with vigor) to keep Caleb while Rudy and I went to the Razorback game, even though we offered Jerry the chance to go to the game with Rudy. They wouldn't have anything to do with it! So, we went to the game on Saturday. They decided to be nostalgic and took a trip to campus during the game. They even snuck a peek at the game from outside of the stadium. They took Caleb all over campus and then went to eat in Tontitown. They didn't get home much earlier than we did!
Sunday morning, we had a wonderful home-cooked breakfast (courtesy of Chef Rudy). It was a nice morning. We visited and played with Caleb until Jerry and Sherry left. As I wrote in my last post, Caleb wouldn't go down for a nap on Sunday. He cried and cried until I thought he was going to make himself sick! Little did I know!
After going to the ER on Sunday night, we struggled to get up and ready for work on Monday morning. When I was giving Caleb his medicine before we left, I noticed that Caleb's left eye was a little goopy, the way it gets when he has a cold. I cleaned it up and didn't worry too much about it. When we got to Pine Crest, I noticed that there was a little blood mixed in with the discharge from his ear. That worried me, but I thought it was probably just from the infection, or maybe from the examination the night before. I (of course) had it on my mind all morning, so I called to check on him when I got to my school. One of the front desk ladies had just gone down to check on him and said that his ear was still bleeding and that it wasn't looking good. I asked her to call me if it got worse and she agreed. I called and made a doctor's appointment for the afternoon. Later in the afternoon, the school called and said that his eye had swollen almost shut. I was worried sick by the time I met Rudy and Caleb at the doctor's office. By the time we got in to see the doctor, Caleb was worn out and pretty agitated. Dr. Byrum looked at Caleb's ear and said it was really bad and then looked at his eye and grimaced a little. He made some changes to our medication regimen and said that if it isn't better by Thursday, we need to come back for a culture. We're now giving Caleb 2 doses of oral antibiotic, 4 doses of eye drop antibiotic and 4 doses of ear drop antibiotic each day. It's an awful lot of medicine and pain for him. He hates it so much! Agggghhhh! I nervously asked if he could go to school tomorrow and Dr. Byrum said no. He has to stay home until he's on the antibiotic eye drops for 24 hours. So - I'll be home with Caleb tomorrow. I can't really complain about that, but it does make 3 1/2 sick days for me already this year! Oh, well. I have my priorities and if anyone questions that, they are being ridiculous.
If you're reading this, you must care about our little family, so please say prayers that Caleb will get better soon and life will get back to normal. We all need a break!
Sunday, September 30, 2007
2nd ER Visit - exactly 11 mos after the first one
We just got home from the ER. Everything is okay, but it's been an exhausting night. This afternoon, Caleb refused to nap. He cried for over an hour and a half while I tried everything I could think of to get him to sleep. I decided he was just being a twit and let him cry. He finally fell asleep and we both took about a 30 minute nap before he woke up screaming again. I noticed that he had something on his face by his right ear, but didn't think much of it. I figured it was runoff from the crying episode. He went to the park with Rudy, played at home and ate a huge dinner! As I was getting him ready for bed at 8:00, I used a baby wipe to clean his face next to his ear. He screamed like I was killing him. I got my otoscope and looked in his ear. Ugh - it was completely full of fluid and looked worse than any other ear I've ever seen. I sat him down on the bed and he fell asleep immediately. I told Rudy I was worried about it and that I thought we might need to take him to the ER, but I didn't want to overreact. We decided it was better to be safe than sorry, so we went. After waiting for what seemed like forever, we went back into the actual ER and waited some more. Finally the doctor came by and took one look in Caleb's ears and said we need two antibiotics - one for in the ear and one to take orally. We waited some more for the actual prescriptions to be written and then dropped them off at Walgreen's on our way home. Rudy has gone to get them now. I tried to put Caleb down to sleep in his bed and he threw a holy fit, which I would normally ignore, but I just can't since I know that he doesn't feel like himself. When I'm sick, I want my Mama and I guess he does too. We're going to sleep on the guest bed tonight and hope for the best.
Tuesday, September 25, 2007
Splish Splash
Sunday, September 23, 2007
September
We all survived the stomach flu. As of my last post, Mom and Mr. L. had driven up here on Saturday to get Caleb so that Rudy and I could try to nurse ourselves back to health. Caleb had a wonderful time at their house. He played outside and walked all over the place. They said he loved the ducks and the water! I got up Sunday morning and drove to Hot Springs to get the little man. I still wasn't feeling all that great and it was obvious that he wasn't either, but we made it home safe and sound Sunday evening. Rudy was still feeling awful, but we all managed to go to school on Monday as scheduled. Rudy woke up on Tuesday still feeling terrible, so he stayed home. He went to the doctor Tuesday afternoon and found out he was still running a fever, so he stayed home on Wednesday as well. It was a rough week for him. Caleb and I bounced back a little quicker. We also found out that Mom got the virus on Tuesday and was down for the count for a couple of days. It was miserable for everyone! Now we're all better and back to a somewhat normal life, but it was questionable for a while!
We were glad to be feeling better for the weekend. We left for Sherwood right after school on Friday and got to Memmie and Poppie's house about 8:00. We had a wonderful dinner (of course) and then played with Caleb for a while to try to get him ready to go to bed. I put him down to bed at about 9:00 and he cried so hard that I was afraid he was going to be sick! I got him out of bed and he played and played and hammed it up for Memmie and Poppie until 10:30. Rudy was exhausted from a week of being sick and then driving 3 hours to get there. He went to bed early and I ended up sleeping in Caleb's room with him just to try to get him to go to sleep. It was a long night for me!
We got up Saturday morning for the weekly "big breakfast" at the Hatches. It was wonderful as always! Caleb loved Memmie's homemade biscuits. I've never seen him eat so much at one meal! He ate biscuits, eggs and even a piece of bacon. I loved watching Caleb warm up to Memmie and Poppie and realize that they love him just like we do. The child is certainly loved by a lot of people. There is no doubt about that!
Saturday afternoon was Maddox's 1st birthday party. Becca and Jimmy decided to have 2 parties for him since they don't know many people where they live. The first party was in Little Rock and they invited all of their Arkansas family. They had a great turn-out and we had a fun afternoon. There are lots of pictures on Shutterfly .
We spent Saturday night playing marbles with Memmie and Poppie and listening to the heartbreaking Arkansas/Alabama game. Memmie and Poppie don't have cable, so we didn't get to watch the game. We listened very intently and tried to contain our emotions as we came from behind and then lost.
On Sunday, we went to church with Memmie and Poppie, then out to lunch at Red Lobster. Caleb showed out for the whole restaurant when we got ready to leave. Rudy was carrying him out and he was yelling, "bye-bye" to everyone. At least he wasn't crying!
We drove home on Sunday after taking some pictures of Caleb and his great-grandparents. Caleb and I slept all the way home and Rudy got us here safe and sound.
On Monday, Caleb started his new school: Pine Crest Private School. We really like it there and he seems to be adjusting well. It was a hard decision for us to move him, but it came down to 2 factors: money and location. We liked Building Bridges and the people there, but Pine Crest is much closer to our house and it's $500 less expensive for the year. That's really big, considering we still own a home in St. Louis that doesn't look like it's going to sell anytime soon. We also had been having some problems with a child in Caleb's class biting him. He had been bitten 3 times in a week and that's just not acceptable. I know that children that age bite and there's not much you can do about it, but 3 times in a week is a little excessive.
The rest of the week was pretty normal. We did our usual family routine. On Friday, I got a call after lunch from Rudy, saying that Pine Crest had called and said Caleb had thrown up twice and we needed to come get him. I immediately thought the worst: stomach flu again! Fortunately, I don't think that's the case. I truly believe it's all related to teething. Caleb's molars are trying to come through and he's having a hard time. He has had diarrhea really bad all weekend - just like when his first teeth came through almost a year ago. I went to pick him up and he was sleeping so hard on his little mat on the floor. It was an odd sight for me to see, but I felt good because I knew that he felt safe there. We came home and he played just like nothing was wrong with him at all. He hasn't thrown up again, but has had some pretty gross diapers.
Mom came in on Friday afternoon. She stayed with us all weekend and loved every second of being with Caleb. Yesterday morning, while Rudy and I were getting ready for the ballgame, she took Caleb to Old Navy and Belk and then went to the mall to look for some Crocs for him. She wanted to get him some so bad, but couldn't find his size. Instead, she bought him a bunch of PJ's. She also wanted to get him a rocking chair, so Rudy and I stopped and bought him one at Cracker Barrel on our way to the game. It's red and says Razorbacks on the top. Too cute!
Rudy and I went to Fayetteville yesterday at about 10:30! The game didn't start until 5:00, so we had lots of time to visit friends and walk around. We started out meeting up with one of Rudy's college roommates - Bryan Wilhelm. We hadn't seen him in a long time and it was great to catch up. His wife and 2 daughters were there too and it was so nice to see them all! After that, we went to Bud Walton Arena to look in the Razorback shop. It just so happened that the basketball team was practicing, so we got a sneak peek at the team. After that, we walked over to the indoor practice field to see if the band was practicing. We visited with some friends there and then went to the Alumni house. We left the alumni house just before pre-game. We got to the stadium and got an invitation to sit with one of Rudy's co-workers in their box. That was so nice! We spent the whole game in the luxury box and never broke a sweat! :) The game was horrible! We couldn't believe we lost to Kentucky. We were so mad that we didn't even go out afterward. We came straight home.
Mom left this morning after we got up. We're having a lazy day at home now. Jan came up this afternoon to play with Caleb. We're having dinner with the Voises and Doug this evening and then the week starts again tomorrow morning. Rudy's playing golf with Doug tomorrow afternoon. So, it's another week at the Villines house! We're hoping for a healthy, uneventful week!
Saturday, September 8, 2007
Eeeew ~ Stomach Flu
I went to bed Wednesday night with a headache, but planned to go to work on Friday. woke up at 3:00 on Thursday morning with that nagging feeling that something wasn't quite right. Rudy was sleeping on the couch, so I had the whole bed to myself. I laid there until 3:30, when it finally hit. I was sick all morning! By noon, I had absolutely no energy left and couldn't even get out of bed. I was running fever and using my cell phone to call Rudy to ask for Gatorade and popsicles. It was completely pitiful. Rudy was great to take care of me and entertain Caleb all day.
Rudy came into the bedroom at 5:45 this morning and said that we needed to call someone to come get Caleb, because it had hit him. I called my parents and they drove from Hot Springs to get Caleb. They left their house at 6:00, got here at 9:00 and left here at 9:15. I was feeling okay, but still not good. I probably could've managed Caleb today, but I wasn't so sure. I was running a low-grade fever and didn't want to chance re-infecting him. Rudy has been in the bed all day today (against his wishes) and is feeling pretty crummy this afternoon. I took a long nap this afternoon, caught up on Days of Our Lives and I'm doing some laundry. I'm going to drive down in the morning to get Caleb, spend a couple of hours in HS and then come back.
On a happier note - Caleb's bronchitis seems to be gone!
Monday, September 3, 2007
Doctor visit
Vocabulary
At 16 months (as of yesterday), Caleb can say the following words:
Mama!
Dada!
Dudu (Dewey)
dog "dah" (sometimes he just barks instead)
bird "buh" (points at the window where there used to be baby birds in a nest)
LaLa "wawa"
cracker "kah-kah"
night-night "nah-nah"
ball "bah"
nose "nuh" (points to his and ours)
go
bye bye
duck "duh" (quack-quack)
banana "nana"
hi
tree "tee"
Woo Pig "ooo dah" (with hand motions)
We swear he's also saying, "what's that?" He says it all the time with perfect question inflection: "uh dah?"
He also signs "more" - but that's just his sign that he wants something to eat or drink. He doesn't really understand that it means "more."
He shakes his head for "no" and nods his head for "yes". The nodding is hilarious, because he always raises his eyebrows and makes a funny face when he does it.
His receptive language is also getting really strong. He understands when we ask him to get things, come here, let's go, etc.
Other than the fact that he claps for us after we sing to him and that he tries to sing along sometimes, you'll have to ask Rudy about Caleb's musical skills. I can only tell you about his speech and language. Ha!
August...to the best of my memory
July 25th ~ Mom and Mr. L. came to St. Louis. With the help of about 8 of Rudy's former students, we loaded 2 of the biggest U-Hauls we could get. Jenny came over to keep an eye on Caleb. She ended up taking him to her house, just to get him out of the melee of moving. Michael came over after work and was a big help! Jerry and Sherry came by to say "bye" and to play with Caleb for a little while. Fortunately, Jenny had brought him back by that point. While they were at the house, Sherry was holding Caleb's hand while he walked around and I walked in the room. Caleb let go of her hand and took about 3 steps to get to me! It was his first time to ever walk by himself. We were all so excited about that big advancement. After we got the trucks loaded, my parents, Rudy, Jenny, Caleb and I went to TJ Wings for some dinner. We were all completely exhausted! When we got back to the house, Jenny and I said a tearful "see you later" and I went back to getting things ready for the big drive the next day. Caleb slept in his pack & play, Mom and Mr. L. slept on a mattress on the floor in the guest room and Rudy and I slept on our mattress on the floor in our room.
July 26th ~ We were up bright and early to leave St. Louis. Mr. L. and Rudy drove the big trucks, Mom drove Mr. L.'s truck and Caleb and I were in my car. We were quite the gypsy caravan! We made it here by 2:00 and started unloading right away. We had lots of help: Chris (Rudy's brother), Nick and Jan showed up to help. Once things settled down a little, Leslie brought Jackson and Grace over and the Schmidts came over too. Stacy had been kind enough to keep Caleb during the day so that we could unload the truck without his "help." We ordered a few pizzas and started unpacking.
July 27th ~ I had to meet with the HR director at Bentonville in the morning, so I left the crew here and went to do that. It was a challenge getting really dressed when most of my stuff was still in boxes, but I managed. Mom and Jan were very kind to take care of Caleb, start unpacking household necessities and make the first Wal-Mart run while I was gone. Mr. L. and Rudy spent the day taking the U-Hauls back and doing "man stuff." Mr. L. grilled for us that night and it was a great first dinner in our temporary home.
July 28th ~ Mom and Mr. L. left for Hot Springs pretty early Saturday morning. Rudy, Caleb and I spent the day unpacking some boxes and just spending time together after the whirlwind of activity that comes with moving.
August 1st ~ Rudy started back to work. His main job is with the middle school bands, but part of his responsibility is that he has to help out with summer band camp and Tuesday night rehearsals at the high school. That's not so bad, considering how much he was gone the past few years.
August 3rd ~ We all went to the band party at a park in Springdale. The staff, kids and band parents made us feel very welcome. Caleb loved going over to the pond and feeding bread to the ducks and geese. They came right up to him and he, of course, laughed and said "quack!"
August 6th ~ I started my new job in Bentonville. We had a week of new teacher orientation and a week of staff in-service before the kids ever darkened the doors of the schools. It was a long two weeks!
Since I started back to work, Caleb started his new daycare. He really seems to like it there and has adjusted well. The staff likes him and they always tell me how sweet he is for them. I had a hard time with the idea of Caleb going to a daycare facility. Ms. Carrie was so completely wonderful last year. When we had him there, I felt like he was with a family member. Now, he goes to daycare in a room with about 10 other kids. He sits in a little chair at a little table for lunch and he plays on a playground for recess. The hardest part for me, though, was the idea of him taking his nap on a cot. Until he started daycare, he had never slept anywhere other than his crib, his pack & play, the carseat or someone's arms. Now, he's sleeping on a cot. The visual image of that was what made me cry the night before Caleb started daycare. I'm okay with it now. He's been there almost a month and he lights up in the mornings when I tell him it's time to go to school. That makes me happy.
August 10th ~ Mom and Mr. L. came up for the weekend of August 10th. Mr. L. and Rudy were beside themselves with excitement about going to the PGA Championship in Tulsa. They went over there on Saturday and Sunday and loved every single minute of it! While they were gone, Mom, Caleb and I spent Saturday goofing around here and taking a tour of the area. We had a good time, even though Caleb wasn't quite feeling 100%. He was pretty cranky. We even got up and left PF Chang's before we could order our food because he was so out of sorts. It's too stressful for me and everyone around me when he's like that in a restaurant. I think it's just best to get up and leave.
August 12th ~ The morning of August 12th was huge at our house! Caleb decided he'd just take off walking all by himself. He had been taking a step or two here and there, but that morning, he walked for real! We had just finished breakfast and he was getting fussy, so Rudy got him out of the highchair and took him in the living room to play. All of a sudden, Rudy started yelling at us to come look, because Caleb was walking. Mom, Mr. L. and I went into the living room and Caleb walked from Rudy to Mom, then from Mom to Mr. L. I grabbed the camera and took a couple of pictures and a little bit of wobbly video. I was so glad that Mom and Mr. L. were here to share that fun with us!
August 16th ~ Caleb's daycare called and said he was covered in a rash! I went to get him and took him to the pediatric clinic. The doctor looked him over and said that it was a post-viral rash and that he could go back to daycare. It wasn't roseola this time, but something similar. I guess that explains why he was so grumpy the previous weekend!
August 17th ~ We had dinner and visited with the Voises at their house. Jan and Chris were in town, so it was good to have everyone together.
August 18th ~ Jan took care of Caleb while Rudy, Chris and I rearranged our garage. When we moved in, we just stacked the boxes and extra furniture in the garage however we could. We really wanted to park at least one of our vehicles (preferably mine) in the garage, so we spent the day of the 18th taking everything out of the garage and putting it all back in! Now, half of the garage is storage and the other half is perfect for my car!
August 20th ~ School started for Rudy and me. Actually...school started for Rudy, since I don't start seeing kids until tomorrow. :)
August 22nd ~ Rudy and I visited a different daycare center that we are going to move Caleb to. Leslie & Nick take Jackson there and they love it. We are perfectly content with where he is now, but we REALLY like new place. Plus...it's cheaper, newer and closer to our house. We're actually going to save $500 a year by moving him. I don't think there's much debate there!
August 23rd ~ Mr. L. has started a new job and needed a laptop. Rudy's new job supplied him with one, so we loaned Mr. L. Rudy's old one. So...we met them in Ft. Smith for dinner and to give him the computer. Caleb was funny when he turned the corner in the restaurant and saw them sitting there, waving at him. His eyes got huge and he grinned from ear to ear! It was so funny! During our meal, Mr. L. and Caleb fed each other french fries until I thought Caleb was going to turn into a big french fry. Those two are just enamored with each other! Isn't that why we moved home in the first place???
August 30th ~ For the whole last week of August, Caleb had a terrible cough that just kept getting worse and worse! Finally, I called the doctor's office to make an appointment. I took him in on the 30th. We saw Dr. Byrum and he said that Caleb has bronchitis. He prescribed Albuterol and wished us luck. I went to get the prescription at Walgreen's and it was $75! I about had a heart attack! Come to find out, the actual medicine was only $10, but the plastic mask that we have to use to give it to him was $65! So, we've been giving him this medicine all weekend and he's not doing any better. We've had a couple of rough nights of him coughing and crying for over an hour in the middle of the night. I'm taking him back to the doctor this afternoon (9/3/07). Hopefully, they will be able to give us something better.
August 31st ~ We went out to dinner at Fish City Grill at the Promenade. It was wonderful!!!! It was a beautiful, cool evening, so after dinner, we walked over to the fountain to let Caleb play. He loves to look at the fountain. He walked around and around it for quite a while, then he took off walking to see some flowers in a big terracotta planter. He tripped somewhere along the way and hit his chin on the planter. He has a scrape on his chin that looks pretty yucky. It doesn't seen to bother him, though. I guess it's one of the first of many of those! Since he's been walking, he seems to have lots of mysterious boo-boos. Last week he had a bruise on his right cheek that I couldn't explain and he's had some red marks on his forehead that I could only assume came from a topple at daycare.
September 1st ~ WOOOO PIG SOOIE! Finally - football season has arrived. Jan came up to keep Caleb for the first Razorback game of the season. Rudy and I had lunch with the Fellers at Jose's. After that, we went to the Alumni house to meet up with the Lyons crew. The Hogs won the game against Troy (46-26). At halftime, we were invited up to a luxury box by Rudy's work partner and that was quite a treat! After the game, we met Cindy and Kendra at Willy D's (piano bar) for about an hour or so and then came on home. It was a great day that we've been waiting for for a long time!
September 2nd ~ We met the Lyons family at Monte Ne Inn for dinner last night. It was fabulous as always, but Caleb was quite a handful! He kept wanting to get out of his highchair and walk around. Rudy and I worked our rear ends off trying to keep him occupied!
September 3rd ~ Finally - I'm caught up to today! All that, and there's not much to report for today. After having a rough night with Caleb last night, I slept in and Rudy played with Caleb this morning. They even went to the park for a while. Now, Caleb is taking his nap and I'm about to get a shower so that I can take him to the doctor this afternoon. Rudy is playing golf with some band directors. I start seeing kids for therapy tomorrow morning! Yikes - I never thought I'd be doing therapy again. I have kids back-to-back from 8:00-3:30 tomorrow. I will be completely exhausted tomorrow night!
A New Blog
Friday, July 20, 2007
New Words! (No, Cardboard Box is not one of them!)
Now for the big news: Caleb has learned to call the Hogs! Until recently, he would just raise his hands up and then smack them down on his knees while we said, "woo pig!" Now, he raises his hands and says, "woo", then smacks them down and says, "da!" It's pretty funny! I've tried to get him to do it on video, but he gets distracted by the camera and won't do it. I'll keep trying because it's something we definitely need to have recorded. Sometimes, he'll even stand up and let go of whatever he's holding onto to do it. That's our way of tricking him into standing alone.
Our little man loves to walk holding onto our fingers. His favorite thing to do is to walk around the circle on the main floor of our house. He really loves it if one of us helps him walk and "chase" the other parent. That brings lots of laughs! He also is warming up those legs for solo walking by pushing around his wagon full of blocks and occasionally, his actual push-walker. This is a big change from the first time I tried to get him to use the walker and he screamed like I was asking him to dance en pointe! Pretty much anything that will move when he pushes it has become a walker, including one of our end tables sometimes.
The last time I wrote was July 9th and I'm really trying to use this blog as a record of what we do from day-to-day, so I'll do a little catching up:
July 10th - Daddy's Day Out. Caleb and I went to see a kids' musician at the library. His name was Babaloo. Caleb loved the whole experience. There were probably 100 kids there and he was fascinated by all of the dancing and the music. He squealed with delight at the bubble machine and banged on a bucket with drumsticks just like the big kids did.
July 11th & 12th were normal days for us. We played with the neighbor-kids and enjoyed summer.
July 13th - Rudy took Caleb to the last day for kiddie gym at church. That afternoon, I took Caleb to the zoo for a couple of hours. It was a nice day weather-wise, so we had a good time. Caleb actually seemed to notice the animals more this time than in the past. That was as much fun for me as it was for him.
July 14th was a normal Saturday of play and fun. We really got a lot of packing done and I started to feel less nervous about the move. I've packed a little bit most days since then and we're almost finished!
On July 15th, Rudy went to visit with Mike and Kelly Crawford with Jerry and Sherry. Caleb and I stayed here so that his routine wouldn't be completely messed up for the week. It always takes a few days to get him back on schedule when we goof it up and I just didn't want to worry with a cranky kid this week.
The 16th was my regularly scheduled Mom's Day Out, so I did my regularly-scheduled scrapbooking at Archiver's and it was great as always. I got 25 pages done!
Rudy's Dad's Day Out on the 17th was split into two parts. First, he played a great golf course until a storm came up and they had to quit. He was mad because he said it was one of the best rounds of golf he'd ever played and he didn't get to finish it. When he left there, he came back home and packed up his truck to go to Tennessee. He spent the night with Doug and Lisa in Nashville.
On Wednesday, the 18th, he met with a guy about buying his dad's Civil War collection so that we wouldn't have to move it again. The guy was great and bought the vast majority of the stuff on the spot. We're glad to have that out from under our roof...and our insurance policy. He drove back here Wednesday night and then went to play basketball.
While he was gone, Caleb and I had a few bumpy moments and some fun too. On Tuesday, for the first time in a while, all 5 of the neighborhood one-year-olds were together. It just so happened that they were together in our driveway to play in the kiddie pool and with the outside toys. It was so great to watch all of them together. It made me wish that we were going to be here for a while so that Caleb could grow up with those boys. I've become such good friends with their moms and we've really formed a little community and support system for each other this summer. We will miss them all very much! Later that night, Jenny came over for dinner with Caleb and I and stayed to hang out with me after Caleb went to bed. I just knew that Caleb would be worn out from all of the fun that he had in the afternoon and that he would sleep great on Tuesday night. I was oh so very wrong. I got to bed at about 12:30 after Jenny left at 11:45. The little stinker woke up at 1:00, screaming. I went in to check on him and he was just beside himself. I did everything I knew to do to get him back to sleep and nothing worked. I put him in bed with me and after an hour of him tossing and turning and wanting to play, I looked at him and said, "Caleb, please go night-night." He sat straight up in the bed and grinned at me and said, "night-night." I couldn't help but laugh. Maybe it was out of delirium, but it was funny nonetheless. So...that's our second new word: night-night. Once I got myself back together, I took him in his room and laid him down. As much as I hated to do it, I decided to just let him cry. And he did. He cried and cried until 3:30 AM! That's the last I heard from him. I finally got to sleep, convincing myself that he would sleep a little later than normal because he had been up so long. Wrong again. 7:00 AM on the dot, he started yelling for me. I rolled out of bed and grumbled the whole way into his room. I forced myself to do the whole morning routine of breakfast, Sesame Street (while I showered) and then got him dressed. We had a lunch date with my friend Tanya and her son, John at 11:30. At about 9:00, I knew that I was going to have to get out of the house or I was going to either fall asleep and leave Caleb unattended OR completely lose my mind. So - we went to Target and a couple of other stores to kill some time until lunch. I went ahead and went to lunch early so I could feed Caleb. I enjoyed my visit with Tanya and then Caleb and I came home. I just knew I was going to get a good nap while he slept. Yeah, right. He slept for a total of one hour. When I heard him calling for me, I thought I was going to scream! After just a little bit, I called my friend Zoe down the street because she had invited us over to play in the afternoon. I told her we were up and ready when she was. She's been having trouble getting her little guy to sleep too, so she was ready for some company. We went on down to her house and the boys played for about an hour and a half until dinner time. Needless to say, by the time Rudy got home from Nashville on Wednesday, I was worn out! Caleb went to bed as usual and I wasn't far behind him. On
Thursday (the 19th), I planned to do absolutely nothing! Rudy had his usual morning with Caleb. After lunch, I put Caleb down for his nap and Rudy went to get some stuff from the storage building. While he was gone, the real estate office called and said that someone wanted to see the house at 5:00. So much for doing nothing! Rudy and I kicked it in high gear and got things sparkling clean around here and I even packed about 6 boxes of stuff. We went to dinner at 5:00 and got home around 5:45. At 6:00, we went next door for a farewell dessert hosted by some of our friends. We had 5 adults and 5 kids. The oldest of the kids was 3. It was a very sweet thing for our friends to do for us and just made it that much harder for us to leave. When we got home last night, Rudy wasn't feeling too great, and ended up being really sick all night. He stayed in bed all day today and still doesn't feel too hot tonight either. I've tried to keep Caleb away from him so that he could rest and to keep Caleb from getting sick. After being up late with Rudy and not being able to sleep because my mind was racing over about a thousand things, I got up with Caleb bright and early this morning. We hung out for about an hour and then I looked out the window and saw Zoe and Colin playing in their driveway. I took Caleb over there to play for a little bit and then we came back home for a late breakfast. It was a beautiful day, so after breakfast, we played outside in our driveway. While Caleb explored the garage and played with dry oatmeal in a bucket, I taped up the bottoms of some boxes in preparation for a major packing expedition this weekend. We came inside for a very necessary bath and lunch and then he went down early for his nap. Shortly after I put him down, Jen called and said that they were about to leave for vacation and that she wanted to see me to say goodbye since we'll be gone when they get back. I went over to their house since both of my boys were sleeping. After talking for a while and saying a sad goodbye, I came back over to take a short nap. Caleb woke up and we went to the grocery store, then came home for dinner. After dinner, we played outside for a long time (it really was a beautiful day) with Zach, Charlie and Jess and then came in for bedtime. Caleb was in a particularly talkative mood, so we called my mom and Mr. L. and then Jan so that he could say "night-night" to them and then we headed up to bed. After all of that outside play, he was exhausted. I never heard a peep out of him after I left his room.
So...that's our crazy life for the past week and a half. I know it's not terribly interesting to read, but I also know that when Caleb is 6 (or 16) and I look back at what we did when he was just one, and smile with a little nostalgia. I already do that when I look back at last summer's entries.
Jerry and Sherry are coming to get some of our furniture for Rebecca tomorrow. They are also graciously taking Caleb for an overnight stay so that Rudy and I can really get a lot of packing done. It is just so hard to get much done with him underfoot and I worry about him getting into things that he's not supposed to - like the tape dispenser or the open cabinets. It should be a productive weekend for us and a fun one for him.
The moving trucks will roll out of our driveway in 6 days!
Monday, July 9, 2007
Lucky Me
Last summer was wonderful. We had a beautiful new baby boy and we were learning to be a family instead of a couple. We worked out a great system for feedings and early mornings and our summer went pretty smooth. Caleb was such an easy baby and since he wasn't mobile yet, we spent a lot of time holding him and moving him from the swing to the bouncy seat, etc. When Rudy went back to work in July, things changed, but it still wasn't bad. I learned to compensate for him being gone and we managed quite well. Rudy's job was undeniably stressful for him and he was gone a lot during the fall. Caleb and I were pretty independent, but we all three soaked up every minute we had together as a family. I absolutely don't deny that Rudy has ALWAYS been an extremely hands-on Dad, he just simply had a lot of other responsibilities on his mind as well. He took responsibility for the time-consuming and tedious task of washing bottles (now sippy cups) and doing everything he could to spend time with Caleb as much as possible. But...very few of his precious nights at home went by without a phone call from a staff member, parent or student with some sort of band emergency or without a very necessary block of time spent tending to the things that couldn't be dealt with during the day. Now that Rudy doesn't have the responsibilities of being "Mr. V" 24/7, he has become even more comfortable in the role of "Da-Da" and has amazed me tremendously.
This summer has been more of a challenge for us in some ways than I expected and easier for us in others. I was really worried going into the summer that it would be hard for me to make the switch from professional/mom to full-time mom. In some ways, I was right. On one hand, I thrive on routine. On the other hand, I love summer breaks. I have enjoyed having the extra time to do things with Rudy and Caleb during the day and, of course, I love not being exhausted in the evenings from being at work all day. Once I realized that we needed a little routine in our summer and I worked that out for myself, I started to handle the summer a little better. I just couldn't go day-by-day like some people can. I need a plan. (I know that shocks everyone who knows me!) The additional stress of being in real estate limbo has made things just that much more complicated, but there's no reason to complain about that.
Now, how does this all tie into me being a lucky/blessed/smiled upon woman? Quite simply - Rudy, Caleb and I have learned to dance the dance of family. Rudy and I take care of each other when we need to be taken care of and we step up to take care of Caleb when the other simply doesn't have the "oomph" to do it. We recognize each others' moods and respect them. We know and accept and understand when the other person needs some time alone to do the things that make us who we are and to be a real person - not just a parental robot. There are times, for instance, when I realize that it is quite silly for both of us to be standing at the foot of the stairs "spotting" Caleb in case of a fall and I can say, "You got him?", then go off to take care of something else...or to do something I enjoy. Other times, I find us in the same position, and my immediate response is, "I got him" and encourage Rudy to go do something he wants or needs to do. We've learned the dance and we're getting pretty good at it. Sometimes I feel guilty because I feel like I put too much responsibility on Rudy - as if I'm copping out of what has to be done. I'm sure he feels like he does the same to me from time to time. I think guilt is a part of parenthood that is difficult for all of us to handle. I know it is for me at least.
This weekend was a great example of how we dance the dance. Because Chris was in town on Tuesday, Rudy didn't have the chance to take his usual "Dad's Day Out," so he took it on Friday. I took Caleb to play at church, fed him lunch, put him down for his nap and invited some neighbors over to play in the pool in the late afternoon.
On Saturday, Rudy did his usual early morning with Caleb (a walk, breakfast, Sesame Street and some playtime). He swears he loves this private time with Caleb - but (again) I feel guilty about sleeping in every day when he's getting up. We've talked a lot about how I don't sleep well at night, but sleep very soundly in the mornings when I know that Caleb is being taken care of. Rudy seems to understand this and knows how much I need my sleep, so he is the morning caregiver. Okay - back to Saturday - I joined them mid-morning and we had a lazy day at home. We procrastinated packing all day long and it was great! Once Caleb was in bed, Rudy and I did our own things for the evening (he played poker and I scrapbooked). Saturday night/Sunday morning was tough with Caleb. He woke up a couple of times during the night and it was really hard to get him back to sleep. Finally, I put him down for good at about 3 AM. I was one very tired Mama.
Rudy woke me up for church on Sunday morning and I told him about the night I had just made it through. We agreed that sleep would be best, so I rolled back over and dozed off again. I literally slept until 1:00 in the afternoon! Caleb was napping when I woke up. After I ate lunch and got the sleep out of my system, I was ready to pack. Rudy and I have an agreement that he'll be super-dad if I'll do the majority of the packing. He hates to pack and I don't mind it all that much. When Caleb woke up, Rudy took him to the municipal pool and I packed and packed and packed. When the boys got home, I fed Caleb his dinner and played with him a little. We went for our Sunday night Fritz's (frozen custard) run. When we got home, I gave Caleb a bath and put him to bed. I headed back downstairs to pack some more and (after going to the store to get some more box tape), Rudy relaxed and watched some TV.
Today was my Mom's Day Out! I met Monica and Colleen for lunch at Qdoba. We sat there for 2 1/2 hours! After that, I went to Archiver's for the rest of the day. Rudy and Caleb came up to the mall to play and stopped to say hi to me. Rudy promised me that they were fine and having a great time, so I stayed until 8:00. When I got home, Rudy went to hit some golf balls in preparation for his golf game tomorrow. He just got home a few minutes ago and now we're winding down for the night.
Tomorrow is Dad's Day Out and Caleb and I are going to have fun together! I'm looking forward to it. I missed him today. That's what Mom's Day Out is all about - now I'm recharged and ready to be Mama again. I am so blessed.
Saturday, July 7, 2007
4th of July, A Visit from Chris and Packing Procrastination
Caleb's roseola is gone. He is completely back to his old self now. He's really been a lot of fun the past week.
Monday (7/2) was my Mom's Day Out. I went to Archiver's at about noon and scrapbooked until 5:30. I got 25 pages done! I keep thinking how great it would be to be caught up to date when we move, but I know that's not realistic. I am, however, going to be at least through Christmas, so that's an accomplishment in itself. I'll only be 7 months behind. I never thought I'd be glad to say that. Chris came in to visit on Monday too. The guys came to meet me at the mall for dinner and then I took Caleb home. Chris and Rudy went out on the town, but they were home by 10:00.
On Tuesday (7/3), they went to 6 Flags and Caleb and I had a fun day together. The one-year-old twins from next door and their mom came over to splash in the pool with us. When the guys got home from 6 Flags, we all got cleaned up and went across the street to the Browns' for a cookout and to watch the Twin Oaks fireworks from their deck. It was a wonderful evening. We sure are going to miss the Browns when we move.
On Wednesday, we celebrated the 4th in style with Jerry, Sherry and Rebecca Villines, Virginia Clay, and Mike, Kelly and Sarah Crawford. We went over to the Villines' house for a fabulous lunch and then went downtown to the Arch for the fireworks. Caleb had a great time crawling around in the wet grass and loved the fireworks too. He sat in my lap for the show, so I didn't get to see his face, but Rudy said that he watched Caleb more than he watched the fireworks. He said that he was absolutely mesmerized by the lights and the sound. It was a great night and a tradition that we hope to continue for a long time.
On Thursday (7/5), we had an appointment with our financial planner and then the house was shown in the afternoon. Rudy drove me around to run some errands while Caleb took his nap in the car.
Yesterday (7/6), I took Caleb to church for Kiddie Gym in the morning and Rudy took his Dad's Day Out to play golf. Caleb took a good nap and then the Browns came over and splashed in the pool with us for a little while. So - it's been a fun week full of summertime activities. We're getting really spoiled by all of this relaxation. I start my new job a month from yesterday. That is exciting and sad all at the same time!
Some wonderful news to report: My friend Leslie had her beautiful baby girl on Monday. Grace Ann Lyons made her debut at 8:13 AM in Fayetteville. The pictures that Leslie has on her blog are beautiful and I can't wait to get there to see Grace in person. Leslie called this afternoon and seems to be doing great. I'm so happy for her, Nick and Jackson!
Saturday, June 30, 2007
Roseola
When he woke up from his almost 4 hour nap this afternoon, I noticed a strange red rash on his right leg. It was really big and felt warm to the touch. He didn't seem to have any fever and was acting normal. Rather than panic and rush to the ER, which I knew was not necessary, I tried to talk to my next door neighbor who is a pediatrician. Of course she wasn't home. I kept an eye on the rash for a little while and it started to fade away. By the time I took Caleb up for his bath at 8:00, it was gone. However, when I took his shirt off, there was a splotchy rash on his chest and belly. This one wasn't warm, but I was definitely concerned. I went ahead and gave him his bath and put him in his PJ's and tried to wait for the neighbor to get home. I finally gave up and put him to bed. About 5 minutes later, I saw her pull into her driveway. I ran upstairs and pulled Caleb out of bed to go next door. She was very sweet about it and took one look at him and said, "He has roseola." When I told her about the fever that we thought was a result of teething, she said that it was a viral infection and that's what had caused the fever. Roseola is caused by a virus. Kids have fever for a couple of days, then get a rash. Once the fever is gone, they aren't contagious anymore. That's good news, but I feel so very bad for taking Caleb out to all of the public places that we went to this past week while he was contagious. I'm sure he passed this on to several other kids.
Just when I thought I was in the running for "mom of the year" I had to go and goof up like this. Okay, maybe I wasn't in the running, but I sure missed this one completely.
Friday, June 29, 2007
A Busy Week in Which I Hate Teething
Despite the mild setback, we've managed to entertain ourselves pretty well this week. On Monday, I had some errands to run and took my weekly "Mom's Day Off." Rudy and Caleb not only went to play in the play area at West County mall in the morning, but they also went to the Ballwin pool in the afternoon. Rudy took his well-deserved "Dad's Day Off" on Tuesday and went to do his errands and play golf. It was too hot to do much outside and I can't stand just sitting around the house all day with Caleb ("no, don't touch the outlets," "no, don't eat the dog food," "no, don't press every button the satellite receiver..."). No matter how many toys we play with - they get boring! So, after a very short nap, we packed up and went to Chesterfield mall for a stroll, lots of time in the bookstore and playtime in the play area. We both enjoyed it! On Wednesday, we tried to go to the Magic House for our morning out, but it was raining and it seemed like everyone else in town had the same idea. We didn't even go in. Rudy ended up taking him back to the mall to play again. (The mall play area is so great because it's free and Caleb loves it!) We had an open house on Wednesday night, so we did some pretty heavy-duty cleaning and then went out to dinner while the house was open. On Thursday, we thought we might try the Magic House again, but Caleb just wasn't acting like himself, so we decided against it. We had a pretty low-key day at home. Caleb was feeling better after his nap, so I took him to the park to swing and watch the "big kids" play while Rudy took a nap. After the park, we stopped at Sonic and split a milkshake to cool ourselves down and just because it was fun. We came home and played for a while, then Rudy and I had a date night. We actually got a babysitter and went out to dinner at Roberto's and then downtown to the Broadway Oyster Bar to hear the Rebirth Brass Band - one of our favorite bands from New Orleans. It was a wonderful night - so relaxing and something very different from the usual activities. Unfortunately, Caleb woke up when we got home at midnight and cried so hard that I had to sit and rock him back to sleep. Everything was fine until he woke up again at 4:00 sobbing uncontrollably. Normally, I would've tried to wait it out to encourage him to get back to sleep on his own, but with the way he's been feeling lately - I just couldn't do it. I picked him up and tried to rock him back to sleep. No dice. So, I laid down in the guest bed with him. Again...no dice. We ended up going down to the living room and watching a recorded episode of Sesame Street, drinking a whole cup of milk and then he was ready to play! I stayed up with him until 7:00 so that Rudy could get some sleep. By 7, I had been up for 3 hours and was working on just about 3 hours sleep. I woke Rudy up and handed parenting responsibilities over to him. He gladly got up and took over. I was asleep within minutes and slept most of the morning away. Rudy took Caleb to playtime at church. After Caleb's nap, I decided that he was feeling much more like himself and that we were finally going to go to the Magic House. Rudy was running errands, so we were on our own. We had a wonderful time in the "Little Bit of Magic" area at the Magic House. Caleb played with balls and pots & pans, mirrors, other kids and all sorts of fun stuff. He really enjoyed crawling up and down the ramps too. It was a fun afternoon for us.
Only 3 1/2 weeks until we move! Still no bites on the house, but we're less worried now that we have a temporary place to live in Rogers. We have fun stuff planned for every week until we move. I decided that we needed some sort of plan so that the days don't just slip by and we wonder why we didn't do anything. I researched some fun activities in the area and wrote them all down on a calendar. I feel much more "in control" of things that way. I guess it's just my nature.
I guess I should go to bed now. There's no telling what time the little monster will wake up!